When to go to the Antenatal Ward
Monday, 2 July 2018
So the Antenatal Triage take you in after 17 weeks of pregnancy. So if you have any issues in regards to your pregnancy, you would go there for an emergency check. Anything minor they tell you to go to your doctors for, but I would always ring them for advice because it's hard to know what is classed as an emergency in pregnancy world.
One thing you hear over and over in pregnancy is to keep track of your babies movements and if they change or reduce, you should tell your midwife. Now I haven't had a community midwife this pregnancy because she has been on leave. So the number I have for her should basically be null and void. If I have had any worries I have rung the antenatal ward for advice, much to their displeasure.
I personally have been up the ward about four times during pregnancy. Three times were for reduced movements and one was for spotting. All times they have hooked the bump up to a heart monitor and have tested my urine (sent it off to the lab) as well as my blood pressure. So they check you more thoroughly than a community midwife or doctor would.
If hadn't gone up there those few times I wouldn't have known I had GBS in my urine which is linked to premature labour. When they find Group B strep in your urine (opposed to just a swab) they like to treat you with antibiotics instantly, I don't know the reasons why but it is obviously a threat to the baby if they feel the need to treat you on the spot. So they gave me antibiotics to take orally for a week. They found GBS in my urine twice, once at 28 weeks and again at 37 weeks but both times I went there for different reasons (nothing to do with Group B Strep). Doctors do not test for group b strep in urine unless you insist, so I felt like everything happened for a reason for me to go down there and have everything checked out because although my other issues were nothing in the end, I did need treatment for something I was unaware of.
Every time I rung them up I contemplated it for ages. 'Am I being a hypochondriac? Probably.' But I never wanted to risk my babies health because I felt a bit embarrassed or felt as though I was an inconvenience. I joined a lot of facebook groups for babies due around the same time as me and a lot of them said DO NOT overthink going in for a check, if you feel like something is off then you are probably right. Some even said they had spates of going in for checks daily. You should never feel like you're being a drama queen because what if your instinct is telling you something is off like it was for me.
So the bottom line is, don't panic throughout your pregnancy but if you do have random moments of feeling like something is off or not quite right, I would recommend calling the antenatal ward. No symptom or lack of movement is overlooked like it could possibly be by a GP. Your local doctors are not trained in pregnancy related issues. I have even had to explain to my GP that if Group B Strep is found in your urine you need antibiotics and NO it does not always flag up as a water infection. They can't seem to wrap their heads around it because generally GBS is not something that is diagnosed or treated for by default. So I have insisted for swabs and samples to be sent off a couple of times because I am not risking anything!
P.S I recommend joining Facebook groups, even the American ones - Mine are 'Babies Due in July 2018' I'm in about 5 different ones and they have really helped my mentality when I've had worries and questions.
Stupid things I've cried about in Pregnancy
Tuesday, 19 June 2018
You haven't experienced the true feeling of hormonal until you've been pregnant. I never really noticed a massive difference in my mood until I found myself crying most days and thought hey this isn't normal. They say the first and last trimester are the worst for this and my god has this been true! During the first trimester I was an insecure mess, fast foward to this last trimester and i'm an angry bitch. I no longer feel insecure - i'm just fed up! So I thought it would be funny to reflect on the things that have angered me or upset me to tears which are actually quite ridiculous.
1. Dreams/ Fear your partner will cheat on you because you're a fat moody whale - The other night I dreamt my partner was cheating on me with a nightclub dancer called Sophie Dowell (yes I invented a full name and instagram profile in my dream). So in my dream I found out he was arranging to meet up with this Sophie and they were messaging over Instagram. I woke up FUMING, thinking it could be real. So I instantly IG searched Sophie Dowell because I obviously thought it was all a sign, and came up with nothing. The nightclub dancer doesn't exist but that didn't stop me from being suspicious and angry for a whole day, I maybe even shed a tear of frustration over a story I had created lol! I now make it a standing joke, if he's on his phone a lot i'm like 'Are you messaging Sophie?' haha.
2. Dreams, again. - I've never been one to sleep talk but during this pregnancy I have woken myself and my partner up by hysterically laughing. It starts off as a unconscious laugh then I become aware that i'm laughing and then I can't stop because I find it so funny that i'm laughing hysterically at nothing and then I start crying because I can't stop and realise i'm actually mental.
3. Situations that haven't happened and probably never will - So i'm an anxious freak, it's a joke how anxious I am. I'm always ready for the worst outcome. So naturally I have made up these horrible scenarios like visitors making my baby dangerously ill because they've visited her with a bug or my baby dying of SIDS because smokers have hugged her and ignored my pleas to keep their clothes smoke free. Or I've imagined that she's taken away from me/ me and my partner separate and she has a step mum and i'm pushed out. I'm not exaggerating when I say I have had full on panic attack crying moments, you know when you can't catch your breath/ make your face swell up, all from living out these scenarios in my head. I suppose it all comes from not feeling in control.
4. Feeling like a handmaid (Handmaids Tale) - Recently I watched the whole Handmaids tale box set and am now up to date with season 2. I'm so susceptible to the emotions and storylines in TV shows, I feel like I have lived their lives. So naturally, I have had moments where I've cried because I feel like a handmaid. 'Will this baby even be mine?'
'Will other people take over, will I even make my own parenting decisions?'
'Will my home and baby be taken over by unannounced or forced visitors?'
'Will I be respected as the mother of this child or am I just a vessel that's creating a baby for other peoples's happiness.' I am DRAMATIC. I cried in the car with my partner the other day and said things like 'She won't even be my baby, you could so easily force me out of the picture, we won't even have the same last name so she will be yours and your family's baby, i'm just the handmaiden'. - how he puts up with my theatrics is beyond me.
5. Driving past anything that relates to animals - It all began with me driving past an animal rescue van going 50mph on a 60mph road. At first I thought FFS hurry up, then I saw the animal rescue sign and imagined all the little animals in the van and thought that's why they're driving slow and then I started balling! Now I cry if I see a horse in a field because I question their happiness (when they're most likely fine), and the other day I got upset over the thought of hamsters being disposable like they aren't respected as actual living things. They have to live in a small cage every day for the rest of their lives and I've heard of so many getting crushed because they've escaped or they've ended up in the washing machine and people don't seem to be horrified?! Oh god here I go again.
So that's a round up of random things that have made me cry during this pregnancy. I am actually mental.
Has anyone else been as mental as me during pregnancy?
-Robyn x
How I Relax During Pregnancy/ Imperial Candles Review
What I absolutely love about this brand is that their products are VEGAN. Not only are their candles made of Soy but none of their products are tested on animals which is bloody amazing. Another fun thing about their candles is that they insert a jewel in every candle, these jewels could be worth up to £2000! So it's like a lucky dip/ treasure hunt and relaxing candle in one. The whole jewel thing makes my inner child so happy, i'm so excited to find out what jewel I have! Go to their website to see what kind of jewels are inside their candles. I've seen some stunning rings!
So my particular candle is called Pink Flamingo. They describe the scent as exotic bamboo and energising grapefruit. Now i'm rubbish at describing scents but what I can tell you is that it smells like a lovely perfume, a classy smell which adds a pleasant atmosphere to the room rather than a tacky sweet smell.
They also do a range of other scent related products like Shower Jelly! I haven't tried it out yet but I have smelt it and it smells just as nice as the candle.
So to round up my review/ relaxing tips and tricks - I recommend filling your space with a good scent and focusing on an activity which calms your mind. For me that's watching a netflix series and being super lazy. Or I attempt a guided meditation, it depends how patient I feel.
Find my candle here: https://www.imperialcandles.co.uk/shop/pink-flamingo/
Also have a browse of their website because I found their products and ideas fascinating!
-Robyn x
Third Trimester Update & Workout Routine
Tuesday, 22 May 2018
My third trimester has actually felt easier than my second which makes no sense! But I do think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I am remaining active and fit. Here are some things I've noticed this trimester (currently 33 weeks 2 days):
- I can still bend down and get things off of the floor easily (thanks to squatting)
-I can still pick up my forever growing German shepherd puppy
-I hardly ever experience back aches (only sometimes in the evening)
- I'm still going out for hour long dog walks with my mum and keeping up conversation (not too out of breathe)
- I can still put my own shoes on (lol)
_ can still shave my legs in the shower without feeling like i'm going to topple over
- Apart from my baby bump, I've only put noticeable weight on my legs. My whole body is a layer chubbier but not enough for me to notice or feel insecure about
- I'm still the same bra size - back & cup (where are my preggo boobs?)
The bad bits:
- I get cramp at night if i stretch out my legs too much
- I need to wee every half an hour, i'm not exaggerating
- I get tired even quicker
- My anxiety is picking up (because i'm not organised yet at all)
- Sometimes my stomach feels so stretched, it's uncomfortable and balloon like
Can I just add that I am by no means the type of person who is naturally slim. I have to constantly workout to remain in shape. I will never have a super small waist or skinny legs because I enjoy food too much. I workout to feel comfortable with my body and to keep my weight down, as soon as I stop I pile on weight like there's no tomorrow. So to keep to a comfortable weight, I have been working out 2-3 times a week every week. I have a swimming membership and aim for 35 lengths each time. But when I feel lazy I tend to just stick to YouTube home workouts which last for 20 minutes to half an hour and then I add on my own arm routine while I watch Homeland on Netflix. What i'm doing must be working because I'm eating like a horse and am remaining on OK size, plus all the people who examine my stomach have said I have really good ab muscles - one midwife asked if I was a dancer or horse rider! No, i'm just a YouTube worker outer, lol.
Working out has SO many benefits during pregnancy, here are a few:
- Thanks to your ab muscles - Labour may be easier/ faster!
- You lower your risk of Gestational Diabetes (I was told I had two factors that made me more at risk of getting this disorder so I really focused on reducing the risk)
-You're less likely to get backache (true in my case and I suffered with back ache pre pregnancy)
-You may boost your child's athletic potential
-You'll bounce back faster after birth ( this has been on my mind the whole time, I can't wait to wear my normal clothes again)
- You may sleep better (true in my case, when I took a weeks break I couldn't sleep at night)
There are loads more benefits for both you and your baby, have a google!
(source: https://www.fitpregnancy.com/exercise/prenatal-workouts/33-reasons-exercise-now)
Without further adieu here are my two GO TO WORKOUTS:
Team these with a few basic arm workouts with light weights & you have yourself a full body work out!
Enjoy and remember to not over do it x
Group B Strep
Tuesday, 1 May 2018
When I got pregnant, it was all new to me. I hadn't prepared myself, I wasn't taking folic acid for the first four weeks which apparently is a must. I wasn't aware that infections down below caused pre-term labour, there was just so much I didn't know about. Little things that potentially made a big impact. My mum helped educate me along the way because her waters broke with me at 29 weeks (I was born at 34 weeks), so she knew there were plenty of risks I needed to be aware of. One risk that took us both by surprise was a condition called Group B Strep.
This is where I strongly believe in the celestine prophecy (everything happens for a reason, people cross your path for a reason, you are made aware of things for a reason). My mum had recently been chatting with somebody who had a premature birth (32 weeks), it was a shock for this person as she didn't know anything was wrong so an early labour took her by surprise. After a shocking but successful birth, she was told that she had Group B Strep. A condition which is linked to premature labour, a condition which nobody had tested her for, a condition the NHS doesn't even bother telling us about. Her baby was healthy despite the risks and her story ends happily but she wanted to raise awareness as she was aware of the damage it causes when left undiagnosed (I have known two people to lose their newborns from the virus). My mum relayed the story to me and I had a google. What I learnt was this:
'Group B Streptococcus (GBS) is a normal bacterium which is carried by 20-40% of adults, most commonly in the gut, and for up to 25% of women, in the vagina, usually without symptoms or side-effects.
GBS can occasionally cause infection, most commonly in newborn babies, sometimes in adults and, very rarely, during pregnancy and before labour. GBS is not a sexually transmitted disease. Treatment of a woman and her partner carrying GBS does not prevent re-colonisation.
There are two types of GBS infection in newborns: early and late-onset:
- Early-onset GBS infection is more common (approximately 2/3 of cases in babies) and occurs when the baby is up to 6 days old; a key symptom is the rapid development of breathing problems, associated with blood poisoning.
- Late-onset GBS infection – usually presenting as sepsis and meningitis – occurs between age 7 days and up to age 3 months. After 3 months’ old, GBS infection in babies is extremely rare.
GBS is recognised to cause preterm delivery, maternal infections, stillbirths and late miscarriages; preterm babies are known to be at particular risk of GBS infection as their immune systems are not as well developed.' - https://gbss.org.uk'
I was only 20 weeks pregnant but knew I wanted to be tested for it immediately. Now this is where it gets frustrating. The NHS do NOT test for GBS, they feel it isn't necessary which is absolutely shocking considering the damage it potentially causes. So I looked online and found that you could order private tests for around £30 which is definitely worth it. I however, ended up going to the doctors for a general check up/ swab as I have suffered a lot with infections in the past and wanted to be on top of all that while being pregnant. I asked the nurse if Group B Strep was tested for at the same time (it covers BV, Thrush etc), and she said it did which was such a relief. She then went on to say that normally they wouldn't test for it if you were not pregnant as it's a harmless bacteria (to us) but while pregnant it's flagged up if found. Meanwhile, I had a consultation with my high risk doctor at the hospital (as i'm on thyroid medication), and I asked if he thought I would be prone to GBS and told him of my intimate health struggles of the past, he didn't even take his eyes off of the computer and robotically replied, ' I don't think so' , in other words he wasn't interested as the NHS do not take GBS seriously at all.
Low and behold, my swab came back as positive for Group B Strep. I wanted to cry. I had read so much about it, heard so many negative stories surrounding it so all of a sudden I felt like my whole pregnancy was at risk. I felt alone because the NHS just didn't seem to care but I was all too aware of how much damage this bacteria could do. I told my midwife and she put a big sticker on my hospital notes so that staff would be aware of the condition when I go in to labour. The only treatment they offer is 4 doses of intravenous antibiotics during labour, I've heard 4 hours be mentioned a few times so it would suggest that your labour has to last for a minimum of 4 hours for the antibiotics to take effect. This is supposed to clear the GBS from your system so the baby doesn't contract it. The problem is, some people do not last long enough and do not get the full amount of antibiotics and then the baby gets infected, and on the flip side if your labour lasts for too long the baby is at risk again. It's all one big gamble and the NHS have had a lot of losses on their hands because of the poor organisation of monitoring and treatment.
There are poor girls out there who don't even know they have GBS, and give birth and then get diagnosed after their babies are fighting meningitis and sepsis. It is awful and that's why I wanted to make as many people aware of this condition as possible.
I personally pray that I get all of my antibiotics before giving birth, I will be going in to hospital as soon as I start contracting because ideally you need the antibiotics before your waters break as that's when the baby is vulnerable to infection. I have also looked into natural remedies to kill the bacteria before I go into labour. I'm also going to insist that my baby have their blood work done before leaving the hospital (if found in their blood they get their own dose of antibiotics). And that's all I can do. It's frustrating because it's the unknown but it's also something we do not have much control over.
If anyone wants to talk to me about natural remedies, please email me. Or google how to cure GBS naturally. I am treating it externally and internally (probitoics/ supplements etc). I can't say that it has worked for me yet as there are no symptoms to judge if you have it or not, but I would like to do all that I can on top of having antibiotics to help my baby have a healthy start in life.
- On a side note, because of this ordeal me and my baby have to go through during labour, I have planned not to have any visitors in the first week. I know I will be paranoid, looking out for signs of GBS infection. She will be my china doll, vulnerable to everything. Because of the antibiotics, her immune system will be non existent. I'm going to have a no smoker rules - if somebody who smokes wants to see the baby in their first few months of life, that means not smoking that day so it's not in their breath, on their hands or on their clothes as any interaction with second hand nicotine has already been linked to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, and my baby will have an even lower immune system than average. I will be a protective bitch for while because i'm absolutely riddled with fear.
Feel free to email me at: RobynJaneblog@gmail.com
Robyn x
When do you start feeling kicks with an Anterior Placenta?
Saturday, 31 March 2018
I read that if you do not feel your baby move by 25 weeks, anterior placenta or not, you should tell your midwife. So in my mind I always thought, if I don't feel anything by then, that's when i'll worry.
I remember feeling twinges in my first trimester and second trimester which I thought could be kicks. But they were painful, like sharp stitch like pains and kicks are not supposed to be painful. Whenever I asked other mums what the kicks felt like, they would say they feel like butterflies or bubbles bursting. My twinges definitely felt nothing like that so I put those down to growing pains and patiently waited for the 'butterflies' to kick in. Every time I went to see my midwife or spoke to other pregnant women, they would ask me if I feel the baby move and I would always feel so negative about it because I felt NOTHING. My midwife would always tell me that the baby is too small to kick with force, and because the placenta is at the front, they are kicking the placenta before it reaches my stomach.
Finally at 21 weeks - during my 22nd week, I felt a kick! Because at this stage the baby was bigger and stronger, my kicks were not subtle. They did not feel like butterflies at all, more like big bubbles bursting/ little pokes. It's funny how one day it all just changed, and from then on I felt movement everyday. Sometimes I only felt her once a day which worried me but it's normal to not have a pattern that early on in pregnancy. Now at 25 weeks I can actually see the movement from the outside, it's amazing and feeling my baby move comforts me so much. I have been told to not start kick counting until 28 weeks as that's when the NHS care about movement/ decreased movement. Before that its too early on and less movement is considered normal.
Apart from the inconvenience of not feeling my bubs kick as soon as others felt theirs, anterior placentas are completely fine in pregnancy. Panic over!
When did you start feeling your baby kick?
-Robyn x
Second Trimester Hormones!
Friday, 16 March 2018
I am a very sensitive person, any kind of emotion - especially anger, tips me over the edge. If i'm angry - I'll cry, if i'm frustrated - I'll cry, if i'm overwhelmed with empathy - i'll cry. It doesn't take much to make me cry and i'm talking pre pregnancy!
Since being pregnant I have cried most days. If I see something cute on TV i'm crying, if I feel frustrated i'm crying, if I google pregnancy scares - i'm crying. There came a point where I honestly worried about my mental health and googled 'Is it safe to cry every day when pregnant'. How ridiculous am I! If I hadn't been like this before I would actually worry that I have some kind of post natal depression but I think it's just my personality. As my mum always says 'you were born anxious'.
I'm not worried because these emotions never last and when I'm happy I wonder why I was ever sad in the first place. But that's pregnancy for you isn't it, we have to suffer these comical highs and lows.
One emotion that is definitely taking centre stage this pregnancy is anger. I get soooo angry at every little thing that offends me, I am having NONE OF IT! Let me give you a few examples of what has been WINDING me UP!:
-Road rage. Arrogant drivers on the road. I haven't beeped so much in my life. People cutting me up = BEEP. People who beep me out of impatience = they get the middle finger. I had a middle finger war with a couple of vans the other day, oh and a big lorry (while in my Fiat 500 haha)! WHO AM I?! I just have this overwhelming need to defend myself, I will not be disrespected!
- Being patronised. So this morning I had to ring my mum at 8am and cry on the phone because I was overcome by an immense wave of pure anger and frustration. We are in the process of selling our flat and I am also working from home so juggling surveyors and viewers around my clients has been hard. I had a shoot booked in at midday and my partners mum text me the day before to let me know that the estate agent had booked an appointment at my flat from 11-1pm. It doesn't help that this estate agent is the stereotype patronising male who comes across so rude via text. I felt utterly disrespected that he hadn't thought to tell me AT ALL!, so I had a text battle with him and said things like 'I have to work, if I mess my clients around, I lose work meaning we won't be able to afford to move anyway!' I'm sorry do you think my work is a joke? So your job is important but mine can be sacrificed? SO yeah I cried, because all that anger had to come out some how. Arrogant males literally bring out the warrior in me.
-Not feeling in control. Whatever I eat I google 'Is *** safe to eat in pregnancy' and find out that 70% of food is basically considered dangerous. This morning I googled 'Is raw cacoa safe in pregnancy?' The answer was Yes and NOOOO, but I had to draw the line there because I love my daily chocolate smoothies and if you really look into everything, nothing is technically safe. Also, I can never get a hold of my midwife, so I find myself googling everything that concerns me which has wrecked my mind frame. So I often find myself worrying about things that I don't know if I should be worrying about? It's tiring.
-Seeing unreasonable behaviour online General ignorant views. I'm talking about people who share photos of animals and can't see the cruelty behind the 'funny video' or 'cute dog (bred to mutation)'. People who disrespect and mock vegetarians and vegans because we actually care about the planet and the animals who share it with us. Small minded comments which deeply offend me personally. I am commenting on everything. So I apologise if I offend you along the way. I just get a spell of dizzy rage posses me and all of a sudden my keyboard warrior hands are posting a defensive rant.
But on the flip side for the past few nights I have woken myself up from laughing in my dreams. Hysterically laughing. I am actually mental.
Is anyone else as mad as me? Or were you as mad as me when you were pregnant?
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- Robyn x
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